Dating today is different than it was for our parents’ generation. They lived in an era where just sitting down next to a stranger on the ferry could turn into a conversation that might one day lead to marriage and two kids. Our generation lives in a fast-paced world, so sitting down and having a conversation can be hard to manage. Here are a few dating tips for Events & Adventures members that will help make dating in the new millennium much easier.
In today’s world we tend to “play the game,” like arguing with ourselves for hours about when the right time to call back is. We’ve all been there—feeling like we’re at the mercy of someone else’s casual feelings. In a scenario like this, they probably weren’t very interested in making a connection with you at all. You’re left holding on, playing a mind game in hopes that if you just play your cards right they’ll see how ridiculously awesome you are and you’ll both end up happily ever after. Do yourself a favor and stop playing games—unless that game is dodgeball or a board game with Events & Adventures!
We also make the mistake of looking for instant gratification. We’re all so busy we feel like we don’t have the time to put ourselves out there—after all, who knows how long it will be before you get a chance to see someone again, or how long it will take to figure out where to meet next time you do? We worry that by the time we figure these things out the person will have lost interest or moved on.
Dating through social media only encourages this mentality; people on Tinder are used to swiping in one direction and finding someone they can hook up with in an instant. When you date on the internet it’s not who you are, but how you look. Studies have even been done where fake dating profiles were created with objectively terrible personal biographies and pictures of attractive supermodels—and despite how disgusting these fake profiles sounded they still received dozens of messages a day.
Events & Adventures is the perfect way to break this habit; when you join us, all you have to do is show up. We take care of planning the events and finding great people; you focus on starting a conversation with a new friend while playing flag football or putting your brains together to solve the scavenger hunt.
Dating has become a sport. We date because we believe we’re supposed to date. Our schedules are so packed we fit in opportunities to date whenever we can, and often the caliber of the people we meet aren’t the quality of companionship we deserve. But Events & Adventures members have the chance to really connect with people, have rewarding experiences, and the opportunity to build a friendship and see where it leads. So as a reminder, here are some dating tips to help you really make a connection:
- DO make Eye Contact (Put the phone away!)
- DONT mistake kindness for attraction
- DO be original, BE YOU, if they can’t like you for who you really are they are not worth it.
- DONT think chivalry is dead (it’s not), remember small genuine gestures of kindness matter.
Events & Adventures allows you to be active, be yourself and to create new experiences while making friends. You never know when you might find that special connection.